What Makes You Tick?…
As a Coach it is important to understand not only what motivates you, but also, to be able to help others to understand what motivates them also. Without motivation nothing gets done, and most importantly, nothing gets completed.
So what makes you tick? What makes you want to continue what you have started?
Our values and beliefs are tremendous motivators. Values are explained on Google as:-
Principles or standards of behaviour; one’s judgement of what is important in life.
These values are driven by both positive and negative factors (for want of a better word), like the plus and minus ends on a magnet. Positive values and beliefs draw you too something. For some that takes the form of loving the response or the reward they receive in doing something. These rewards can be non-tangible, merely the feeling of being useful and helpful to someone is enough. For others it’s the receiving of a certificate or medal at the end. The financial pay out or simply, being able to cross it from their ‘To-do list.’ that ignites their fire.
It is said our personalities can be separated into your ‘intrinsic’ and ‘extrinsic’ personalities. The later group being your outwardly focused, target, goal driven types, while the former group are your ‘introverts’ – your inwardly focused types who can also be more people focused. This is a very simplified view of people, but both these categories of people are able to achieve and get things done successfully with positive motivation. But the numbers who are able to be successful in the face of powerful or constant negativity, is not so great.
I had a conversation with a young lady earlier on this year during a coaching workshop that impacted me at the time. She was what I would describe as very ‘left brain’. Very analytical, and she looked at things in a very black and white, matter of fact manner. She stood at a distance to look at things objectively as oppose to subjectively. She said ‘she never took failure personally.’ Instead, she would analyse what went wrong, process it, make practical sense of it and moved on. Now for many including me, stripping emotional content out of a situation is extremely difficult, but by doing this she was able to find the positive in order to learn.
Negative values and beliefs polarise and stunt us. They have the power to paralyse you, not only in your thoughts but also in your actions. Negative values and beliefs repel you from something. i.e. You hate spiders to the extreme (negative belief). So, as in the TV show “I’m a Celebrity Get Me Out Of Here!” even though you are hungry and need food for yourself and fellow campers. Getting past your own fear in order to do the right thing and get the food reward you need can be an immense battle of mind/will power and emotion. Demanding 100% or more of you to achieve it. For some they are able to push past their negative thoughts in order to obtain the end goal of the food. But for others the conflict is simply to great and they cannot get past their own powerful thoughts. This conflict exists in your life at times quiet subtly, going un-noticed in the decisions, choices and reasoning’s you make in adjusting your day. Other times its intense, and a very obvious battle of decision. It’s more like a push and pull effect, that can nullify many a dream and goal.
We want the end product but struggle with the decisions; the sacrifices; the hard-work; the slow uptake; the lack of support; the change of economic climate; the list can be endless really that causes you to react too situations by taking two steps back all time, in conflict to your one step forward.
Now how often have you done this or said out loud ‘I seem to make one step forward and three steps back.’ with a feeling of dejection?
How many times have you started something with a real passion and gusto and after a few weeks, months, a year, you find it’s all frizzled out and you can’t understand why? Was it simply just a bad idea? Or was it simply a poor decision?
Was it simply just a bad idea? Or was it simply a poor decision?
Understanding your values and beliefs may help to address some of the reasons why you are a starter and not a finisher of things. Having a greater awareness or deeper understanding of what makes you tick, strengthens you to better prepare, change and address issues in your life in order to adapt in the pursuit of achieving what you want.
So what are your values? What are the things that are important to you. The things that make you want to get out of bed in the morning? Things that formulate your character and the heart of who you are?
To work in conflict of these values will divide you and leave you hating what you are doing or who you are?
So don’t ignore this. Instead get to understand it more, and you more. Understanding what makes you tick is key to self-development and pursuing change in your life.
It would be interesting to hear what makes you tick?