Positivity vs Adversity
As much as I purposed this blog to be about encouragement, inspiration and utilising my coaching. I recognise the fact that I do write from a position of privilege. Why do I say that? Well, the simple fact that I can write, I can spell, I am able to put my thoughts cohesively down for an amazing global audience to read. I can choose to use a pen, paper, laptop, computer or smart phone to capture my thoughts. I can chose whether to use Blogger, WordPress or some other platform to share my thoughts. These are a small number of blessings I have. All are a privilege of the freedom of choice, one of which I am most grateful for and give God thanks for. But, how do you stay positive in the face of hardly any or no privileges? When adversity is truly a formidable foe?
Many have heard of the ‘Crab in the bucket mentality.’ Often used as an analogy for people who pull you back down. But what about life? What about when your battle is more than an individual, its your whole life and existence? No matter what you do you don’t seem to be progressing? it feels like your trying to walk on oil or even quick sand?
This was a conversation I had a few days ago with someone who felt, as much as they try, as much as they have dreams and desire of change;Life doesn’t seem to afford them the opportunity they desire.
Like many I watched the disaster and desperation of the Philippines unfold, as captured by the news. How does positivity hold up in the face of death all around you? No longer do you have a home, things/belongings, food, water, even family; all you have is you. I heard one person say I have NO hope! They show you before and after pictures to help you appreciate the devastation people now face, but seeing it and being in it I acknowledge are two different things.
In the struggle to move up and out, circumstances doesn’t seem to want to let you go, nor allow you to get anywhere. So where does positivity fit in? Where is hope found? Well that’s when you would have to shift your focus, your paradigm has changed from the big things to the smaller things. You now have to recognise the importance of the smaller more simpler things in order to get through to tomorrow. Its funny but these things tend to be the precious things, that in a time of plenty get over looked, maybe even taken for granted.
In The Strangest Secret by Earl Nightingale, he says that all things that can be purchased by money can be replaced if lost. But the things that are truly valuable are free, your health, your mind, your dreams, your love of family, etc., can never be replaced once lost. So its about perspective, finding positivity in the face of your reality. Finding and holding onto your way forward in spite of …… everything. The steps you make maybe really small but forward is forward, Just DON’T GIVE UP!
It always takes positivity to rebuild what is destroyed, regardless of the scale of the damage. Positivity keeps life moving.
It always takes positivity to rebuild what is destroyed, regardless of the scale of the damage. Positivity keeps life moving!
The beauty about nature is that it is not designed to think. it just instinctively does. So where it is seemingly destroyed by fire, water or some other act. As soon as the opportunity arises, a seed hits the ground in a new place or it may be even in the same place, it GROWS. Animals, insects comeback and flourish. Nature is designed with positivity in mind, its in its DNA, to live irrespective of what could possibly happen. A great example of this are micro organisms that live around volcanic conditions, or organisms that live in extreme cold. The desert always fascinates me. Because plants and seeds live, seemingly inactive for months or years. Reproduction is held in suspension in anticipation of rain. But once water arrives the landscape changes rapidly. Plants and seeds shift, activating everything within them to grow, bloom, reproduce. Why? Because things can change as quickly as it started. Adverse conditions can return to the dessert at any moment. So its about living in the now.
Adversity is hard and yet this is where depth of character is shaped. The best, is demanded of us in order to survive.
So I would like to encourage you to, continue to be a positive influence. That is far more important in the long term. Find the positive in you and be a positive influence where you can. There is always a choice of staying positive or not. Accepting circumstances or not.
Have a good day, and be the best changer you can be!