Hey? You’re Important To Me!
You’re important to me! Not a statement many of us say really. I think it is a statement we could easily build into our relationships a bit more.
Why do I say this? Well unfortunately I attending a funeral last week of a young man 34 years old, my friend’s son, totally unexpected. So not the order of things as we would imagine it, as mother’s when we bring our child into the world. But the thing that really struck me and his mother was how well attended the funeral was. The amount of people who attended out of love for him. Who felt he was important, a wonderful person to know and important one way or another in their lives. It was a real comfort for my friend to know her son meant so much to people for different reasons and I said ‘I wonder if he had any idea how much he impacted people’s lives?’ His mum agreed believing she didn’t think he had any idea.
We go about living our lives each day, some of us being really good at sharing our thoughts and feelings and letting others know how much they mean to them. But I would say the majority of us just do what we do without communicating our thoughts and feelings much at all. If anything, we believe the other person would know because of our actions, but I would like to challenge you and ask do you say things like ‘you’re important to me,’ ‘I do care about you’ or even ‘I love you?’
My grandmother always said ‘Give flowers to the living!’ in other words give beautiful things to people while they are alive to appreciate them.
Give flowers to the living!
Life is hard, and in a tough world people create all kinds of protection around themselves in order to get through each day. Saying things like ‘You’re important to me,’ ‘I care about you’ or ‘ I love you’ makes you vulnerable, open or exposed to the possible hurt of others but if you flip the coin and think from a receiving perspective, doesn’t it make you feel good when someone chooses to invest in you like that?
The bible says there is power of life or death in the tongue, in other words what we say is powerful not only in our own life but in the lives of others.
Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones
The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit
As adults you do everything in the light of wisdom in order to bring balance to what you do, but the most important thing we have in this life besides our own life is the relationships we build with others. Not everyone, has material wealth to leave behind but we can leave a legacy of good relationships and good memories. Impacting the lives of others is a great achievement and I believe if we can not only show we care but say things like ‘You’re important to me!’ we instil change.
Be the change you want to be. Have a good day!
Aquene7 = Peace