Success – Is It Your Driver of Self Worth?

Success. Do we all want to be successful? Well I don’t think I can speak for all of mankind with a yes or a no. But what I can say from a westernised economic perspective, is that most people who go into Business or go into employment, look for some level of success in what they do.

Even as writers you write in the hope of building an audience and seeing your work being read.

What is success? The achieving of results wanted or hoped for. – Cambridge Dictionary

So success is measured. There is a pre-determined result wanted or hope for. You must know what you are looking for or expecting to see, in order to achieve it. It is a focal point for what ever it is that you are doing.

Success has a clear goal in mind. But the level of the goal determines the level of success. If I wanted to play darts and my goal was to hit the number 20 once. I might break into my happy dance as soon as my dart lands and stays for the first time in the number 20 section in the dart board. Was I successful? Yes! Could I now become a world champion? Of course not. Because, that result of hitting the number 20 once, isn’t good enough or high enough a goal to become a world champion.

So my expectations need to stretch me. Take me to a place that demands what I currently know, plus what I need to learn to get me to the next level.

For some people this gap between where they are now and where they want to get to, can be seen as “Their Drive,” “their ambition” or “their Why?”

The differentiators between highly successful people for me, is found in this gap of how you get from your current A to your next B? They have a relentless pace and secondly, their next result has them stretching up or climbing to a level they have never been before.

So what is the cause for your drive, your ambition, your why? Clearly their can be many things. It could be a fear of poverty. Their are many who have come out of scarcity and proverty to become millionaires and billionaires. But, as I have asked in the title of this post? Success – Is it Your Driver of Self Worth?

That is not an obvious driver to see. It is a undercurrent in someone’s life. The un-spoken reason to what they do and why they do it. But, if you know what to look for and if you ask the right questions it can slowly become more and more apparent.

What is self-worth? The value you give to your life and achievements. Cambridge Dictionary

Clearly self worth is a huge thing and if your life is looked at from the point of acievement and success, it is evident that your self worth needs to be in a good place. This means a person can be setting goals that they are clearly reaching successfully and as a result becoming very wealthy but if their undercurrent to what they are doing is connected to their self worth it means their achievements may never be enough. They will instantly move onto the next thing without seemingly taking a breathe to appreciate what they have achieved. It’s easy to see this person as very competitive, a winner, a high achiever. It is also easy to miss the pain that low self worth causes until cracks start to appear in a person’s life.

Low self esteem is a poor foundation to build on. It will always undermine success. It is a hidden driver to success and stops a person from truly appreciating and valuing who they are. Self esteem is foundational and is often established during our childhood years. So poor self esteem normally stems from out of our childhood and shapes us as adults.

As in all things. low self esteem can be built up. But it first has to be acknowledged before it can be worked on.

Self esteem needs to be connected to a positive mentality about yourself and how you do life. Things that cannot be bought by money for one. Having a baseline where you believe “You’re not good enough, ” requires an answer that is not based on things. This is because things come and things go i.e a job. So if you are only good enough because of your job and you are made redundant, all of a sudden you would have lost who you are. Therefore, a strong self-esteem comes out of being stable and resilient. Both mentally and emotionally.

I believe we all have value and bring something valuable to life’s table, once we understand ourselves and appreciate ourselves.

It would be good to hear your thoughts?

Until the next post. Be the change you want to see.

Gloria (Aquene7)