How often do you disqualify yourself through being overly critical of yourself?
How often do you seem to be inspired with an idea, only to then start chipping
⭕ I’m not experienced enough
⭕I’m not qualified enough
⭕I don’t have enough money
⭕Who is going to listen to what I have to say?
But the truth is, if you wait to have everything in place before you start, you will never start!
You simply have to use what you know or what you simply have within your means at the time and start. With a view to add and build as you progress and move forward.
Your fuel to anything is your inward motivation, your ‘Why‘. If you throw cold water on it internally, you will never get going. So how do you fan the flames?
For one you must change the script and reframe that inner critic. For every reason that comes to take you away from your plan find the reason to move you towards your plan.
If Steve Jobs had listen to the leading companies in 1998 he would never of changed the world of music, communications, social media and the use of the internet. The iMac and iPod and iPhone were revolutionary in every way and his competitors hand to up their game because of his ideas.
This 2007 talk demonstrates some of Apples thought processes st the time.
Sometimes it’s best to just do it. Don’t tell anyone just action your plan and ‘crack on!’
The reaction of people can also be a sure way to cause you to doubt and second guess yourself. I have certainly experienced this in the past and regretted it. Because I found that I had inadvertently opened up myself to the negative chat or lukewarm responses of others.
Have you ever tried to get past people’s responses that play like a tape in your mind? It’s not easy. So try to save yourself any pain.
Helpful Tips or Ideas
2. Use a Planner to help direct your thoughts and map out your goals or steps on a weekly and monthly basis.
3. Write a list of reasons why you want to do what you have in mind?
4. What would it change or improvement?
5. How would this change your life?
6. How would it make you feel to see your plans become a reality?
7. What is the most important thing to remember?
Feel free to think of and add more questions? Keep them all positive like your vision board. Then get started for a New Year and new chapter😊 Happy planning.
Until my next post. Be the change you want to see.
I have both learnt and observed over the years the importance of ‘investing in yourself.’ Personal Development is great but to become your very best will require the support of others at some point.
The thing about investment, is although there is often a price. ‘Free‘ and ‘Frugal’ do not a business make for everyone🤣 They are both crippling attitudes, if this your mindset for life and yourself. ‘A poverty mindset’ is a term you may not have heard of before, but it is used and taught on in church (Well the churches I have attended over the years🤣).
A mindset based on fear and limitation can become a mental prison that impairs you from moving forward, because what’s ahead is not easy, costs a fair bit of money, requires a lot of time, means giving up personal fun or luxuries. The unwillingness to move past such negative thought patterns brings about one outcome ‘poverty’ – a constant living in mental, and to a certain extent, physical lack.
‘Free‘ does not give you access to the best all the time, and any one in business knows ‘free’ may be a way to attract a customer, but you cannot run a profitable business on ‘Free.’ You must know what your service or product is worth, and price it accordingly, in the relevant market with the expectation of attracting the right customer. Boutiques are not found on the corner of local streets. A prestigious car franchise is found where wealth is common. Likewise, a pound store will be based where shoppers will benefit from the choice of, everything for a £1 or set at a cheap or discounted price point.
When it comes to investing in yourself, I think there needs to be an openness to consider options that may challenge you financially but have the potential to move you into a better place, either as a person or for your business.
Coaches and Mentors
I have benefited from both of these in my life. Both are very different in their roles, and I have learnt over the years that people do not always understand the difference between the two.
A Coach is a role that most people associate with sport. But over the past twenty years the Coaching Profession has become more defined outside of sports world and there are all kinds of specialist coaches today. From health to spiritual, Mindset to Business. To become a qualified or a Certified Coach requires study and there are a number of training companies. The better ones are also connected or affiliated with acreditation companies such as ICF (The International Coaching Federation). A Coach will work with where you are now and where you want to get to. Understanding, that the answers are already inside you, and they just need to be unlocked by you!
A few key types are:-
Personal Performance/Life Coach – This type of Coach can look at topics that impact an individual from most aspects of a person’s life with the aim of supporting them to move forward. However, a Coach is not a Counsellor. They are not there to delve into emotional historical trauma. So a Coach will not work for everyone. That’s why it’s important to have a discovery session first in order to ascertain whether a Coach is for you or not?
Executive Coach – These Coaches work with Executives in the corporate world in order to bring out the best in the individual or the best in their leadership teams in their business. This is a niche market with understood specifics and clear frameworks.
Business Coach – whether you are just starting a business, see yourself as a small business or you run a large corporation. There are Business Coaches that cover all types of business. Once again working with individuals or teams with the aim of progressing and improving your outcomes.
Educational Coach – Specialising once again in a niche area, this type of Coach will understand the educational system and those that work within it.
NLP – Neuro-Linguistic Programming – You can train to become a Pratitioner or Master in this field of this type of coaching. As the name indicates, this type of Coach works with a focus on the brain and how it works in establishing thought patterns in order to establish behaviours. Therefore, to change behaviour – requires changing mindsets.
Neurology – The mind and how we think
Linguistics – How we use language and how it affects us.
Programming – How we sequence our actions to achieve our goals.
Coaching brings its benefits so much so I fell in love with it and became one.
Mentoring consists of a long-term relationship focused on supporting the growth and development of the mentee or protogè. A Professional Mentor becomes a source of wisdom, bringing teaching, and support, to the individual, specialising in a specific area of expertise. For example your Mentor has been in business for a number of years and now has a multi million turn over. Has always been an entrepreneur – things you desire for yourself, so you may seek them out for yourself or they may have spotted you.
The other type of Mentor could be a Spiritual Mentor. This is a more holistic relationship. Once again, it’s about the mentee or protegè’s development. But now from a spiritual perspective. Taking into account their faith and their aspirations etc. This type of Mentor does not necessarily have to specialise in a specific field. This is a more complicated relationship and moves beyond money.
I would say not everyone will be looking or needing such a Mentor. But if you do, I think you will know? Because such a need comes from a deep place and it’s not a simple black and white situation. Therefore, it’s not easy to explain. Once again I have also had a Spiritual Mentor for a time in my life and I both learnt and grew a lot from it.
So don’t be afraid to invest in yourself. Seek the benefits of having a Coach or Mentor if that is what you need? But equally if you have been thinking of becoming a coach, then go for it! You could be just what someone is waiting for! 🤩
Until my next post, be the change you want to see,
Gloria – Aquene7
Success. Do we all want to be successful? Well I don’t think I can speak for all of mankind with a yes or a no. But what I can say from a westernised economic perspective, is that most people who go into Business or go into employment, look for some level of success in what they do.
Even as writers you write in the hope of building an audience and seeing your work being read.
What is success? The achieving of results wanted or hoped for. – Cambridge Dictionary
So success is measured. There is a pre-determined result wanted or hope for. You must know what you are looking for or expecting to see, in order to achieve it. It is a focal point for what ever it is that you are doing.
Success has a clear goal in mind. But the level of the goal determines the level of success. If I wanted to play darts and my goal was to hit the number 20 once. I might break into my happy dance as soon as my dart lands and stays for the first time in the number 20 section in the dart board. Was I successful? Yes! Could I now become a world champion? Of course not. Because, that result of hitting the number 20 once, isn’t good enough or high enough a goal to become a world champion.
So my expectations need to stretch me. Take me to a place that demands what I currently know, plus what I need to learn to get me to the next level.
For some people this gap between where they are now and where they want to get to, can be seen as “Their Drive,” “their ambition” or “their Why?”
The differentiators between highly successful people for me, is found in this gap of how you get from your current A to your next B? They have a relentless pace and secondly, their next result has them stretching up or climbing to a level they have never been before.
So what is the cause for your drive, your ambition, your why? Clearly their can be many things. It could be a fear of poverty. Their are many who have come out of scarcity and proverty to become millionaires and billionaires. But, as I have asked in the title of this post? Success – Is it Your Driver of Self Worth?
That is not an obvious driver to see. It is a undercurrent in someone’s life. The un-spoken reason to what they do and why they do it. But, if you know what to look for and if you ask the right questions it can slowly become more and more apparent.
What is self-worth? The value you give to your life and achievements. Cambridge Dictionary
Clearly self worth is a huge thing and if your life is looked at from the point of acievement and success, it is evident that your self worth needs to be in a good place. This means a person can be setting goals that they are clearly reaching successfully and as a result becoming very wealthy but if their undercurrent to what they are doing is connected to their self worth it means their achievements may never be enough. They will instantly move onto the next thing without seemingly taking a breathe to appreciate what they have achieved. It’s easy to see this person as very competitive, a winner, a high achiever. It is also easy to miss the pain that low self worth causes until cracks start to appear in a person’s life.
Low self esteem is a poor foundation to build on. It will always undermine success. It is a hidden driver to success and stops a person from truly appreciating and valuing who they are. Self esteem is foundational and is often established during our childhood years. So poor self esteem normally stems from out of our childhood and shapes us as adults.
As in all things. low self esteem can be built up. But it first has to be acknowledged before it can be worked on.
Self esteem needs to be connected to a positive mentality about yourself and how you do life. Things that cannot be bought by money for one. Having a baseline where you believe “You’re not good enough, ” requires an answer that is not based on things. This is because things come and things go i.e a job. So if you are only good enough because of your job and you are made redundant, all of a sudden you would have lost who you are. Therefore, a strong self-esteem comes out of being stable and resilient. Both mentally and emotionally.
I believe we all have value and bring something valuable to life’s table, once we understand ourselves and appreciate ourselves.
It would be good to hear your thoughts?
Until the next post. Be the change you want to see.