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Football – ‘The Beautiful Game’

I have often heard people, (mostly men:-) ) refer to football as ‘The Beautiful Game.’  That’s some statement, and obviously born out of a real  love and passion for the sport.

Now, I am no avid football fan, nor expert for that matter.  In fact, my love for the game comes around once every 4 years!!  It’s now World Cup season and if you are not a fan of football right now it can be quiet lonely as a wife or girlfriend and boring if you are a lover of TV, because right now, its prime time for Football lol!

So why is football referred to as ‘The Beautiful Game?’  I can only guess, it’s because when people get to see a fantastic match, showing skill, quality goals and mastery of the game,  their end sentence is along the same lines, implying that  it was a ‘Beautiful Game!’ to watch.

There’s no denying the skill when you see it and you don’t have to be an expert to admire a fantastic goal.  I have attended a football match only once ( told you, I am a Philistine when it comes to football 🙂 But the sound of a stadium singing and chanting is phenomenal that’s all I can say!

For me ‘The Beautiful Game’ should be ‘my life,’ and I can relate life to a game of football.

  • Challenges can come from any direction, at any pace
  • Every player has a purpose and a position to play
  • The overall aim is to be a team player.  To benefit others, your team and those who have come to watch, not to just benefit yourself.  The ultimate purpose in life is the serving of others somehow, through what you do. 
  • There should always be a single purpose and focus in spite of all else, ‘The Goal’ and Winning. You have a purpose and a destiny, its down to you to seek it out and find it.
  • Not everyone plays fair and with Sportsmanship. The cards you are given in life are rarely brilliant. Some people may feel the have no hope at first, but some how your beginning cannot be author of your end.
  • Some tackles are ruthless, harsh, vindictive and can take an opponent out of the game and their career. This happens in life, some people, somehow find a way to turn these situations around.
  • There is going to be natural wear and tare on your body and health.  You get injured, you can become ill and at some point you will require time to mend. Life can stop you in your tracks.  There will always be events and situations outside of your control. You just have to work with it.
  • Once fit you always return to the game or the next available game. Obviously you only have one life and one game.
  • There is a time limit on how long you can play as a professional player as there is to life itself.  So you have to make the most of your time while you can.
  • Skill requires sacrifice, focus, persistence and dedication. Discipline
  • All Professional Footballers start off as unknown’s.  A small child playing in the park, their local street, their school. Some poor and impoverished, far from the glamour of being a Professional.  As in life, humble beginnings is the starting point for many business, etc.
  • Footballer’s don’t quit or give up! Being competitive is all part of the buzz.
  • There is always a stand out player. In life that is always you.  You are the star of your own match!
  • The goal that counts is the one ahead of you not behind for your team. In life the focus is not your past but your future!

Now, I know that many would not see their life as a ‘Beautiful Game.‘ But for me, your choices in life can make it so.

Yesterday I attended the Herbalife 30th UK Anniversary and it was an inspiring event, because of the ordinary people who had made amazing and dramatic changes to their health and were recognised for it.  It was there I saw this clip, and yep, I loved it and it inspired this blog!


Life can be ‘The Beautiful Game’ are you driven to perfect it?  Remember the star player is you!


Be the change you want to be, until next time:-)


Aquene7 = Peace



How Do You Motivate Yourself?

How do you motivate yourself when you feel things are slipping or slowing down? What do you do when you recognise you are going to miss the target you set or you have missed your target?

How do you motivate yourself when you acknowledge that your dream is not going to happen if you continue to go at the pace you are currently going at?

This was where I was a short time ago.  I had set my goal of qualifying as a coach from last year and this was to be achieved by May this year but I could see by the end of March early April, I was falling off track and the final stages was seeming as a big ask. But I knew it had to be done, and the thought of taking 18 months or 2 years to complete, was not an option for me, it was never part of my original plan. So I needed to get myself back on track.

One thing that has constantly been in my mind recently was the Japanese word Kaizen. What is that I hear you ask? Well if you are in the manufacturing and engineering world you will be familiar with it.  It’s the important process of ‘Continual Improvement” and literally means “Improvement” or “Change for the best.”   Not change/improvement for the sake of it but small improvements that bring specific benefit.  This was the process that literally enabled Japan to rise from being a devastated country after World War 2 into becoming a world leader and player in an extremely short space of time.



In Steven Covey’s book ‘7 Habits Of High Effective People’ he calls this process ‘Sharpening The Saw.’  Reviewing your goals and your actions with a view of seeing what needs to change, what is no longer beneficial and basically how to bring self-improvement and change where necessary to yourself and what you are doing currently.

I recognise there were things I needed to change otherwise I would achieve the result I did not want and here are a few of the things I did.  I must admit, I didn’t just wake and decide to do these things all at the same time.  It was a more organic process.  One day I would have one idea maybe a week or so later something else popped up and I ran with that.  But what they all did, was they brought about a small shift in my momentum that as time went by increased my pace, focus, drive and passion in doing what I knew I needed to do.

Step 1.  Way Up My Priorities:  As with most people I realised I had a number of important plates spinning all at the same time and I now needed to re-think everything and decide what was most and important and why.  Once I did that I realised certain things would have to be parked or at least have less of my attention for a while in order to free up time and allow me more space to use my mind and concentration in getting what needed to be done, done.  One of my decisions was to blog less, not ideal but i said it wouldn’t be for long.

Step 2. Have a Clear Plan: I looked at what I needed to do to in order to successfully complete my submission and I familiarised my self with anything I was putting off.  From that I wrote out a clear checklist of what had been accomplished and what was still missing so that I could tick things off once completed. Obviously, this was for my goal but what do you need to put a clear plan in place for?  What have you done so far? What’s still missing for you? When do you need to achieve this by? Why? If you don’t do any of this what will happen? This outcome how does it make you feel?

3.  Considered What Resources I Now Needed:  I thought about what I needed in order to get me to my end goal.  I decided I needed help in order to keep myself on track but more importantly keep myself accountable.  As a trainee Coach I am aware that it is important to understand what your strengths and weaknesses are.  I am great when everything is flowing right but once I start to lose pace I know, I in myself isn’t always enough and I need to have someone in my corner that I am accountable to.  So, I got myself a Coach! Don’t be afraid to get the right kind of help or to put in place the resource you need. So What do you need? Do you need the skills of a Coach? Do you have all the materials you require? 

4. Challenge Yourself:  I have an old fashion diary which I love.  Some people put everything in their phone.  I choose a full page diary as its easy to see clashes and keep track of everything including my client appointments.  Another thing i found myself doing was first thing in the morning asking myself ‘What do you want by the end of the day.’ I would write this in my diary and list the most important things I would like to have completed by the end of the day.  This was not just to do with my coaching stuff, but other things i see as important to my life.  i.e. Workout Session for my health, Reading some of my current book, one or two agreed actions from my coach.  I wouldn’t do an exhaustive list but just 3 or 4 really important things that needed to be complete during the week.  As I achieved them I would tick them off. How can you challenge yourself into action? What can you do to keep yourself on track each day?

5.  Self Learning:  One thing I have picked up from Inspirational teachers like Jim Rohn is to read. So part of my motivational strategy was to cover off a certain amount of reading during the week too. Two books or more per week is nothing for some people who are avid readers. For me it was more about what I read rather than the quantity so I loaded a number of books onto my Kindle which I am now working my way through happily and loving what I am learning.  These include a few of Jim Rohn’s books and Talk Like TED by Carmine Gallo.  To accompany the Talk Like TED book  I also decided to watch the TED Video’s and it was a very wise decision for me.  So find what works for you and build it into your day.

All of these things varied in intensity and by them self seemed like a small thing really, but I have found together they have brought me to a place where I am more than on track with my goal and by the end of June my studying will be over, YES!!  However, my mind is already onto the next level about perfecting my love of Coaching and understanding ‘What makes people tick and enabling them to get there!”

I say all this to encourage you in finding your way to getting to YOUR ‘there’ where ever that is.  It’s not about quitting, just rethink and adjust what needs to be adjusted. I think step one in my short list is the hardest, but once you have done that it’s just about making it work.  I find the reading and watching of the video’s bring about new information for me, and great questions which then trigger me to find new answers for my life.  Having a Coach helps me to be clear and to formulate specific, measurable and realistic steps in making what I want – happen. But you may choose a good friend who you know will keep you on track.

Do what you need to do to keep yourself progressing and moving forward.

Be the change you want to be, until next time.


Aquene7 = Peace

Who Sets The Beat In Your Life?

Sometimes, I wonder where do my ideas and concepts come from because they can be so random and left field 🙂 But that’s the beauty of inspiration I supposed.  A life’s lesson can come out of the most unexpected moment or thing!

So who sets the beat in your life? Is it God? Do you feel its you? Or is it others?


This is a Metronome, not exactly amazing to look at but this was a lovely one I thought amongst all the photo’s out there.  If you are a musician or in the music industry then this would be a useful tool to have.  As with most things these day’s you can now get this as an app for your phone or even download the beat for your own use.

The Metronome sets the rhythm or pace in music. Imagine music with no sense of rhythm or pace, Who would listen to it let alone choose to buy it?

Likewise, I thought about my life. Who or what is setting the beat in my life? Next question is “what kind of rhythm or pace do I have going on right now?”

You may have heard it said of others “that they walk to the beat of their own drum.”  In other words they seem to work very much in their own way, seemingly following no one, cutting their own path in a way they choose regardless of who agrees or not. Such people, as with a lot of things can be like Marmite – you either ‘ love them’ or ‘hate them.’ Not that they would care.

So I ask again who sets the beat in your life?

As a Coach I work with people, enabling them to identify their goal, focus on one important thing and making it happen.  The speed of how quickly this is done however, is very much down to them.  You see rhythm and pace has a consistency about it. However, as in music this has to change in order to create music. Like our heart beat has to change in accordance to the circumstance you find your self in.  How boring would it be if you had to listen to the same beat for 5 minutes let alone 10 minutes or 1 hour, even 1 day. It would quickly shift from being interesting to boring and annoying.

Your heart would also fail in its purpose if all it had was one rhythm and pace. How would you run, how could you support functions that required a lot more energy and exertion?

So it is I feel if you want to achieve dreams in your life.  Those goals that have not been attained yet.  They are not achieved by keeping the same pace, remaining in your comfort zone.  The whole purpose of a goal is that it should stretch you but not to the detriment of you, so not to break you, or overwhelm you. A goal should take you to a new place, because it brings something new into your life and new experiences by which you learn.

Life is complicated, but a beat needs to be clear so the pace and rhythm can be heard, followed and experienced.  How that beat comes into your life is a question only you can answer.  For me, God determines what goes on in my life and that sets my spiritual path which of course influences what I do in my life.  However, the pace I move by is I feel very much down to me because I can either choose to be driven and focused  about something or allow every wind and storm to come in and disrupt the pace of my life.

The bigger the dream the stronger the beat needs to be. There also needs to be a clear and distinct sound to. It’s not a beat that anyone else will hear, but your life will resonate with its effect.

There is a lot to be said in ‘Setting your own drum’ its the only way to living a fulfilled and purposeful life. For at the end you can say I did all I had in my heart to do.

Be the change you want to be, until the next post enjoy your life!


Aquene7= Peace






Challenge Your Fear To Attain Your Dream

Zip-line in Haiti

Zip-line in Haiti

A friend posted this picture on Facebook to say this was one of her achievements from her bucket list.  I was totally blown-away by the photo.  This was not taken by her, but she has ridden this zip line whilst she was on holiday.  She said with having to deal with the fear she was feeling at the time and trying to focus on the ride, she could never of taken a photograph as well!

I find this shot just keeps me looking and it holds my attention. I think it must be such an exhilarating and exciting experience. Yet, I can totally relate to the fear she experienced and for me the fear is just as tangible and equally as stronger feeling as my excitement.  How perplexing?

There is a part of me that could see myself doing this.  I could imagine the beauty captured in my mind, the vivid colours, the wind blowing on my face, the sense of nothingness being beneath me and around me.  But likewise, I can also literally feel the fear as well.  You see, I am frightened by heights.  It’s really hard to explain what being frightened of heights is like, but literally the ground moves in your head as you look down.  For me looking directly ahead is better than directly down.  The fear I sense is very much built up from all my past experiences of fearing heights even when I have over come them to complete certain fair ground rides, etc those feelings are still very much a part of me, fixed, tangible and very real.

So how do you push past such tangible fear in pursuit of a dream goal that also emotes the most amazing thrill or buzz inside you?

I was speaking to a friend and fellow Coach who recently completed a fire walk.  It was a similar conundrum for he,  in that there was a real fear of doing this walk but likewise she recognised, that to complete it would unlock something big inside her.  If she could achieve that walk, she knew it would be such a successful achievement she could use it to push past other challenges going on in her life that she needed to get over.

I do believe it is an amazing experience to overcome, break through or push past a major fear in your life. At times it can feel like bursting through a major wall or barrier in your life and there is nothing like being on the other side of it.

I feel I am at such a place in my life where I need to really do something extreme in the fear department in order to overcome it and so release myself from current patterns in my life, if that make sense?  Sometimes, there is a lot to be said about going straight to the top and doing the most difficult thing once and once only instead of building up to it by overcoming a number of increasing smaller fears building up to it.  For me it’s like going for the strike in 10 pin-bowling, no other moves count. At that moment in the game, you just want to get that ultimate score because your fed-up of the past results and you want to achieve that goal and if that means you win the game, great!

Its funny,  how things change.  But, as you work on yourself and change you really can’t predict what will happen next.  A quote I heard recently that now stays with me because I have adopted it for myself is:-

You are today where your mind has put you, and you will be where you are tomorrow because of where your mind brings you.

Billy Blanks – Tae Bo Trainer

I certainly was not thinking like this three or four weeks ago, but all of a sudden this how I am now view things and considering what can I do, that’s extreme in challenging my fears, that will release me closer to attaining my dream?  I will let you know on what I have decided:-)

Be the change you want to be, until next time.


Aquene7 = Peace


Success – Requires You To Show Up!!

I always admire people who can make me to think, look at myself with a view to change or improve something. Brene Brown did just that.  Her well known TED speech ‘The Power of Vulnerability’ that ended up going viral, was on a subject I had never considered as making it a strength.  Yet, the life stories that have impacted me the most, have been from people who chose to expose their vulnerabilities.  Vulnerabilities, they somehow overcame – enough to share their stories, instead of hiding them under the banner of fear and shame.  For whatever reason, they decided to speak out for the benefit of others in the hope of inspiring or encouraging someone else. In the hope of making a difference to even one persons life.

I wrote a post called Mirror, Mirror, Friend or Foe which touched on  the things we choose to expose and the things we often work so hard at hiding.  Another analogy to Maslow’s Window that is used is ‘the iceberg’ because what can be visibly seen above the surface is often small in comparison to what sits below the surface of the water of a persons life.

Brene’s speech talks on vulnerabilities in a way I think is brilliant. I would recommend you give it a watch if you have time.  But the clip I focused on today was another speechshe did about critics. I am definitely a creative. I have always admired art, photography, design and fashion. But writing has always been something I have done. I have written so many things in books and in note pads simply to get things out of my head and heart and down on paper, and for the most part that’s as far as my writing ever got until I started my blog in October 2013. I find it impossible to write without put something of myself into what I have written.  Therefore, with every post I feel I am always putting part of my out there into an unknown arena. But, so it is for most bloggers who write from a personal perspective.

I found Brene’s take on critics and being criticised interesting. Criticism and fear are the biggest reasons for people giving up or stepping back. Choosing instead to not attempt change in their life for one reason or another.  The quote you hear her refer to is this:-

It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.

Theodore Roosevelt“Man in the Arena” Speech given April 23, 1910

It’s ironic being a Coach at times because I find my most frequent client is myself. Overcoming your own personal doubts, fears, inadequacies is a constant thing but also enables me to empathise with people who do not get there in the first move.  In fact, they may find that they stumble time and time again, but this is what makes you a better person not only for yourself but also to others.

Its funny, but the arena is the place where both success and failure are found.  It was the place where life or death were determined. The outcome was based on how well you fought even in situations where it seemed the odds were heavily stacked against you.  The point was to fight because your life depended on it, regardless.   Making your dreams become a reality means you have to ‘show up’ and you have to ‘face your critics and challengers, especially yourself.‘ Somehow, you have to find a way to become the over-comer and the winner of your life.

I believe in growth and I believe in change.  We all have choices to change our life in some way for the better. While we are here I don’t think we should ever settle. We should always continue to strive to be the change you want to be. Hope you enjoy the video until next time.

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