There is no denying the challenge around your mental health at this time. But I want to encourage you to ‘Keep Your Head Up!’
If ever there was a time to have a filter in place around negative people, news and social media I would say it is now.
For me in the UK, I will be experiencing my second ‘lockdown’ for 2020. Not as severe as the one imposed in March, but never the less, it’s an isolation and separation of family and friends. It’s one thing if you are married or have children. It’s a whole other if you are single and on your own.
I realised during the first lockdown how important it was to pay attention to my thoughts and emotions. For I found myself spinning into overwhelm, panic and fear of a pointless future during those first two weeks of lockdown. My emotions were becoming low and I knew that wasn’t me. So, I leaned into the solace of my faith and after the dramatic loss of my mum to Covid in April. I found myself more and more in my garden. A place I had for 16 years, but gave very little attention to in the past. All of a sudden opened me up to colour, sewing, nurturing and growing things in pots.
My gardening became my therapist in such a subtle way, I didn’t even notice the shift at first. But it supported and improved my mental health.
Now its the other end of the seasons, as we move into winter. With shorter days, longer and nights. A very different time in the garden, yet it requires you to think ahead. I am already planning what I want to see next year. What seeds I will sow. I have already prepared the ground, by removing all the weeds. My garden received a huge make over this year, yet I know it will look even more different next year.
Resilience is found in so many ways. It’s the thing that enables you to get through, withstand, endure. For me it is my faith, my garden and close family and friends that have been my everything in 2020. For you, it will be different. But my encouragement is to find those things and build them. Give them strength. Build by moving and investing your energy into it.
I used to be pretty poor at face-timing people. But during the first lockdown face timing friends and family and social interactions between zoom calls became my thing:-)
This has been a year to reach out to people more. Most of us will easily have 50 or more contacts on our phones but who are these people. How many of these numbers do we honestly contact regularly? Just like social media. We may have hundreds or thousands of friends on FB but how many do we truly know? Thousands or millions of followers on IG, LinkedIn, YouTube, (Tiktok is a whole other world and level), yet in reality many dealing with loneliness.
So, who have you not spoken to in ages? It’s important to reach out to our friends and family. No one knows what people are going through and a simple call could make such a difference to their day.
I choose to keep my head up. It is the only way I can see a wider and bigger picture of hope.
It works for me. Find what works for you:-)
Until my next post. Keep being the change you want to see.