Keep Your Head Up!


There is no denying the challenge around your mental health at this time. But I want to encourage you to ‘Keep Your Head Up!’

If ever there was a time to have a filter in place around negative people, news and social media I would say it is now.

For me in the UK, I will be experiencing my second ‘lockdown’ for 2020. Not as severe as the one imposed in March, but never the less, it’s an isolation and separation of family and friends. It’s one thing if you are married or have children. It’s a whole other if you are single and on your own.

I realised during the first lockdown how important it was to pay attention to my thoughts and emotions. For I found myself spinning into overwhelm, panic and fear of a pointless future during those first two weeks of lockdown. My emotions were becoming low and I knew that wasn’t me. So, I leaned into the solace of my faith and after the dramatic loss of my mum to Covid in April. I found myself more and more in my garden. A place I had for 16 years, but gave very little attention to in the past. All of a sudden opened me up to colour, sewing, nurturing and growing things in pots.

My gardening became my therapist in such a subtle way, I didn’t even notice the shift at first. But it supported and improved my mental health.

Now its the other end of the seasons, as we move into winter. With shorter days, longer and nights. A very different time in the garden, yet it requires you to think ahead. I am already planning what I want to see next year. What seeds I will sow. I have already prepared the ground, by removing all the weeds. My garden received a huge make over this year, yet I know it will look even more different next year.

Resilience is found in so many ways. It’s the thing that enables you to get through, withstand, endure. For me it is my faith, my garden and close family and friends that have been my everything in 2020. For you, it will be different. But my encouragement is to find those things and build them. Give them strength. Build by moving and investing your energy into it.

I used to be pretty poor at face-timing people. But during the first lockdown face timing friends and family and social interactions between zoom calls became my thing:-)

This has been a year to reach out to people more. Most of us will easily have 50 or more contacts on our phones but who are these people. How many of these numbers do we honestly contact regularly? Just like social media. We may have hundreds or thousands of friends on FB but how many do we truly know? Thousands or millions of followers on IG, LinkedIn, YouTube, (Tiktok is a whole other world and level), yet in reality many dealing with loneliness.

So, who have you not spoken to in ages? It’s important to reach out to our friends and family. No one knows what people are going through and a simple call could make such a difference to their day.

I choose to keep my head up. It is the only way I can see a wider and bigger picture of hope.

It works for me. Find what works for you:-)

Look Up Child by Lauren Daigle

Until my next post. Keep being the change you want to see.

Gloria (Aquene7)

Writing Challenge – November


I am far from being a new blogger, as this blog is my first blog and was started 7 years ago. My main challenge has been writing consistently during this time. I would say the past 18 months have been a real on and off affair. But my love for writing has never gone away😊

So last month I said I would just write for both my blogs and I am really encouraged by the results.

Between my two blogs I posted 28 times! That is the most I have ever posted in a month since I started Yay!! The increase is against October’s traffic.

Clearly I had to change a number of poor habits and these were a few things I applied in order to change:-

  1. I wrote when I was inspired to write.
  2. For the times I didnt have an idea I looked into different types of Prompts.
  3. I had a note book handy to capture ideas otherwise, I would forgot the idea and flow if I left it. (That did happen😊)
  4. I went back to blogging basics. Read tips to refresh my memory.
  5. Made time, to read blogs and interact.
  6. Decided to experiment and try new things. Poetry is an area I need to do more in and explore more of.
  7. Became more clear in the purpose of the two blogs.

For now I think I will continue to just write when I am inspired. December of course will have holidays but I will still keep this momentum going and look at what I can do to cover over the holidays.

Thank you for your likes, follows and comments it’s been so encouraging. Here’s to December Posts!

If you have over writers block I would be interested in any tips you may have?

Until my next post. Keep being the change you want to see.

Gloria (Aquene7)

Quote: Be You!


Being yourself and being comfortable with yourself is a peaceful place.

Do not play small

Do Not Play Small – Just Be You!

One of my favourite quotes I created on Canva. Totally love using this space.

Gloria (Aquene7)

Breathe – Inhale, Exhale


Breathe - Inhale, Exhale

I am such a morning person. I love the stillness and tranquillity of early morning’s when all you can hear is quiet. A time to be still and breathe. To listen and think.

Breathing at it’s best is at a steady, calm pace. Inhale through your nose and exhale steadily through your mouth. There is a rhythm to be found that slows the heart rate and slows down our thoughts.

Stress, pressure, and challenging situations bring about the opposite effect. They stir up anxiety, chaotic and rapid thoughts and ideas. You may find yourself unable to sleep throughout the night. Being stressed, has you in constant tension. With heightened emotions, that can make you feel overwhelmed and out of control. Now, I know some people love to be challenged. But this is unwelcomed challenge. Things that are out of your control, with a negative impact on you.

Like so many of us this year, I have had my own challenging times. So much so, I felt I needed to create my own way of getting through this year. The mental and emotional challenges have been real. Bereavement, Covid19, lockdown’s, separation from friends and family, never ending media updates and constant negative news, initially made life difficult.

I found myself having to review everything and like many, way up what was really important to me and being intentional about those things.

So what did I do, in order to breathe and bring peace to my mind?

  • I decided to reduced how much news and social media info I listened to. Especially at the beginning of the year, in March. As I found myself in emotional overwhelm at times, because there was so much to process. The news was so inconsistent and fear and uncertainty was just being magnified. “Remember how people were bulk buying toilet rolls and supermarket shelves became empty? Flour became so scarce, along with other items such as pasta, that they had to be rationed, as it seemed in the UK, the world and his wife decided to take up baking.😊
  • For a while during the first lockdown, I had to learn how to do friends and family through face-time on WhatsApp, House Party and Zoom sessions. I remember the thing I missed most was to hug my sister, nephews, niece, etc.
  • I decluttered in order to make space and worked on my neglected garden following the loss of my mum in April. My garden became my therapist in a way I didn’t expect. It gave me a totally different focus and gave reason to become more creative. To plan, to nurture, to grow.
  • My morning’s have always been devotional time for me. A time that has always been special and enabling me to think, pray and meditate.
  • Writing – has always been my thing. It allows me to breathe in two ways. My creative side is expressed through my blog and using Canva which allows me to do so many things. The other is to journal my inner thoughts and emotions when I need to.
  • I also started to play a lot more instrumental worship music.
  • Reading😊

All these things have enabled me throughout this year to change the pace of my day, and I find myself mentally in a much better place today. The loss of my mum and younger cousin, are always just a thought away. I have been laughing one moment and a song or a word has thrown me into instant tears. So I give space for bereavement to also have it’s time.

I pay attention to the pace of my life. Making room to breathe. To slow down. To rest and to listen. To cut out the noise and the hubbub, and to allow myself to slowly inhale and exhale.

I realise that we dont all do life the same and what works for me may not necessarily work for you. But I think there are always touch points of learning and things you can draw or take from.

Things To Consider?

  1. What’s out of whack for you? Poor sleep, feeling irritable, feeling low, not wanting to be around people? How can this be improved? Small steps are better than no steps😊
  2. When was the last time you laughed, truly laughed? What enables you to laugh? A funny film, dancing, a favourite commedian?
  3. Are you eating well? Or are you comfort eating with lots of sugar or high caffeine? Just as a good diet is important for children to learn well in school by supporting their minds. So it is for us as adults. I started to drink more herbal teas, (great way to add antioxidants) I also reduced my meat intake and found some good quality multivitamins supplements. What would improve things for you?
  4. Tony Robbins recommends to change your state of mind through movement. So how could you change your posture? Maybe, by going for walks. Adding some kind of exercise into your week?
  5. Gratitude – what are 5 things you are grateful for? Maybe this can be a quiet time during your day to think?
  6. Journaling is always a great way to refocus your mind.
  7. How do you support your creative side? Drawing, writing, cooking, singing, sewing, designing? Doodling?
  8. Time with family or friends- it’s not been the best year but are you staying connected, even through phone calls. It is so easy to loose touch.

I hope you find some way to take time out for you? Mental health is so important today.

Until my next post. Be the change you want to see.

Gloria (Aquene7)

Invest In Yourself!


I have both learnt and observed over the years the importance of ‘investing in yourself.’ Personal Development is great but to become your very best will require the support of others at some point.

The thing about investment, is although there is often a price. ‘Free‘ and ‘Frugal’ do not a business make for everyone🤣 They are both crippling attitudes if this your mindset for life and yourself. ‘A poverty mindset’ is a term you may not have heard of before, but it is used and taught on in church (Well the churches I have attended over the years🤣).

A mindset based on fear and limitation can become a mental prison that impairs you from moving forward, because what’s ahead is not easy, costs a fair bit of money, requires a lot of time, means giving up personal fun or luxuries. The unwillingness to move past such negative thought patterns brings about one outcome ‘poverty’ a constant living in mental, and to a certain extent, physical lack.

Free‘ does not give you access to the best all the time, and any one in business knows ‘free’ may be a way to attract a customer, but you cannot run a profitable business on ‘Free.’ You must know what your service or product is worth, and price it accordingly, in the relevant market with the expectation of attracting the right customer. Boutiques are not found on the corner of local streets. A prestigious car franchise is found where wealth is common. Likewise, a pound store will be based where shoppers will benefit from the choice of, everything for a £1 or set at a cheap or discounted price point.

When it comes to investing in yourself, I think there needs to be an openness to consider options that may challenge you financially but have the potential to move you into a better place either as a person or for your business.

Coaches and Mentors

I have benefited from both of these in my life. Both a very different in their roles and I have learnt over the years that people do not always understand the difference between the two.

A Coach is a role that most people associate with sport. But over the past twenty years the Coaching Proffession has become more defined outside of sports world and there are all kinds of specialist coaches today. From health to spiritual, Mindset to Business. To become a qualified or Certified Coach requires study and there are a number of training companies. The better ones are also connected or affiliated with acreditation companies such as ICF (The International Coaching Federation). A Coach will work with where you are now and where you want to get to. Understanding, that the answers are already inside you, and they just need to be unlocked by you!

A few key types are:-

Personal Performance/Life Coach – This type of Coach can look at topics that impact an individual from most aspects of a person’s life with the aim of supporting them to move forward. However, a Coach is not a Counsellor. They are not there to delve into emotional historical trauma. So a Coach will not work for everyone. That’s why it’s important to have a discovery session first in order to ascertain whether a Coach is for you or not?

Executive Coach – These Coaches work with Executives in corporate world in order to bring out the best in the individual or the best in their leadership teams in their business. This is a niche market with understood specifics and clear frameworks.

Business Coach – whether you are just starting a business, see yourself as a small business or you run a large corporation. There are Business Coaches that cover all types of business. Once again working with individuals or teams with the aim of progressing and improving your outcomes.

Educational Coach – Specialising once again in a niche area but once again this type of Coach will understand the educational system and those that work within it.

NLP – Neuro-Linguistic Programming – You can train to become a Pratitioner or Master in this field of this type of coaching. As the name indicates this type of Coach works with a focus on the brain and how it works in establishing thought patterns in order to establish behaviours. Therefore, to change behaviour requires changing mindsets.

Neurology – The mind and how we think

Linguistics – How we use language and how it affects us.

Programming – How we sequence our actions to achieve our goals.

Coaching brings its benefits so much so I fell in love with it and became one.

Mentors

Mentoring consists of a long-term relationship focused on supporting the growth and development of the mentee or protogè. A Professional Mentor becomes a source of wisdom, bringing teaching, and support, to the individual, specialising in a specific area of expertise. For example your Mentor has been in business for a number of years and now has a multi million turn over. Has always been an entrepreneur – things you desire for yourself, so you may seek them out for yourself or they may have spotted you.

The other type of Mentor could be a Spiritual Mentor. This is a more holistic relationship. Once again, it’s about the mentee or protegè’s development. But now from a spiritual perspective. Taking into account their faith and their aspirations etc. This type of Mentor does not necessarily have to specialise in a specific field. This is a more complicated relationship and moves beyond money.

I would say not everyone will be looking or needing such a Mentor. But if you do, I think you will know? Because such a need comes from a deep place and it’s not a simple black and white situation. Therefore, it’s not easy to explain. Once again I have also had a Spiritual Mentor for a time in my life and I both learnt and grew a lot from it.

So don’t be afraid to invest in yourself. Seek the benefits of having a Coach or Mentor if that is what you need? But equally if you have been thinking of becoming a coach, then go for it! You could be just what someone is waiting for! 🤩

Until my next post, be the change you want to see,

Gloria – Aquene7

The Wisdom of Naomi


This is one of my older posts that I thought I would reblogg. Mainly because it links in with my recent posts. Can’t believe this was 9/1/2014!

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As a Coach I always work with the view of ‘beginning with the end in mind’  by Stephen Covey.  But, its important to recognise both ‘the journey’ along the way, as well as the ‘destination.’

The people you meet, the things you do or do not do. The lessons you have to learn and the opportunities you have to share and teach.  The journey is a deeper experience than the ‘living in the fast lane’ experience and the constant adrenaline rush.  It’s the things that make life valuable and worth living for; the things that take you past the gloss and shine of life and brings you into a richer place that’s important and needs to be treasured. It is the tapestry of your life filled with vibrant colour and quality stitching amid the imperfections of our humanity.

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